Personal Development Mentor, Parenting Coach, Career Counselor, Ethical Guide
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- Oct 28, 2024
The Magic You Are Hoping To See Is In The Work That You Are Avoiding
The other day I came across this lovely and very thought provoking statement somewhere on the social media, attributed to an anonymous person. It actually felt as if I was hit in gut!
This is so very apt and realistic – I will explain how!
I have a close friend who I know is very keen to start his own venture but is struck in a 9 to 5 job for the sake of continued financial security. It is a well paying job and he is dedicated and doing well at it but that can not be his calling throughout life – working for others for a monthly salary and the reassurance it provides for supporting a rather comfortable lifestyle.
Whenever I interact with him, and it is mostly once a month, I sense a teasing thought lurking in his mind about his pet dream. It has been nearly 6 years now and he has not been able to step out of his comfort zone to launch himself headfirst in the career he holds most dear.
Apparently he is addicted to the safety of a fat package and security that is provides to him and to his family. Somebody had said that, ‘salary is the opium which an employer provides to you to forget your dreams”
Do you not agree???
So many of us go through the same rigamarole in life pursuing things which can give us safety but no joy. Responsibilities are important to be shouldered but we have a habit of inflating our needs, expanding our requirements and stretching ourselves thin on ground by unreasonable EMIs and such like obligations.
I am not saying you should remain static in life and not endeavour to improve your lot and the future of your children. I am only saying that we should keep our desires in check and our expectations rooted to the ground. Most of the problems arise when we live beyond our means. That puts pressure on us to accept unjust and exploitative job demands coupled with anxiety of losing a job and monthly salary in the bank.
The same attitude makes a businessman resort to splurging on luxuries, spending more than actual income by robbing Paul to pay Peter. This eventually forces them to follow unethical practices which may eventually lead to tax frands, economic and maybe criminal offences with attendant risks and threats.
Let’s go back to the main idea that the magic we are looking for is most likely in the things we avoid. It will be worth a while to sometime let go of our restraints and do something which we like. Or do nothing if that is what we find magic in!
Maybe that is where we will find real solace, meaning for our existence and the reason that we are living and breathing for!
On this festive season of Diwali, the festival of lights, my best wishes are with you to have the dark corners of your heart and mind filled with wonderful light of peace, happiness, and true bliss!
Happy Deepawali🪔
Major General Balraj Mehta
For over 35 years I served in the esteemed Indian Army, starting with one star on the shoulder to two stars on the flag. Leading infantry forces and commanding thousands of soldiers honed my leadership skills and instilled in me a deep understanding of human nature. This experience allows me to connect with individuals on a profound level, offering practical solutions for navigating complex career and parenting challenges.
My passion extends beyond the uniform into advising clients for a happy family life, grooming teenagers & young adults and development assistance to professionals. I am a firm believer in the power of knowledge sharing and personal growth. As a paratrooper I embraced challenges head-on, defying limitations and soaring to new heights. Now, I translate that same spirit into my work as a Coach, Mentor, Writer Speaker and Influencer.
Since transitioning from the military, I have embarked on a captivating journey of engaging audiences with my insights on leadership, human relations, and the ever-evolving nature of parent child relationship. My goal is to contribute meaningfully to the discourse on empowering young adults and spreading awareness about need for compassionate parenting, offering valuable perspectives honed through first hand, personal and real-world experience.
I hold dear my commitment to knowledge sharing, teaching, guiding and mentoring the budding entrepreneurs, young professionals and parents of teenagers. By equipping future leaders with the tools they need to excel, I aim to empower them to navigate the complexities of the ever-changing world. It's incredibly rewarding to witness their growth and know that I am helping to shape the next generation of charismatic leaders.
In 1983 I embarked on a distinguished career in the Indian Army, having been commissioned as a Second Lieutenant. The unwavering loyalty and dedication I held for my Nation and my Service became the cornerstone of faith during my professional journey. Each year honed my character, sharpened my skills, and fortified my resolve in service of a greater mission which I took upon as my very own!
Olive Green blood runs in my veins!
My operational journey in infantry culminated in commanding an infantry brigade in a highly sensitive operational area. This exceptionally successful tenure earned me the coveted Sena Medal for distinguished service in 2013. Throughout my career, I endeavour to forge excellent civil-military relations and oversaw crucial operations, including the rebuilding of military establishments devastated by Cyclone Phailin in 2013.
After 35 years of dedicated service, my career peaked as the General Officer Commanding the Sub Area of Uttarakhand and later the 41 Sub Area. On 31 August 2018, I superannuated from the Indian army, receiving a dignified farewell by the then Chief of the Army Staff, General Bipin Rawat.
My experiences have equipped me to guide individuals through the journey called life, helping people overcome their uncertainties and embrace the possibilities that lie ahead.
My mission is to empower individuals to live a meaningful life and pursue fulfilling careers. I leverage my expertise in handling human resources, teaching, coaching and personal experiences in leading large organisations to provide guidance and support to parents to deal with their parenting woes, especially with respect to teenagers. I am dedicated to helping parents to overcome anxieties, discover their children’s passions and guide them to successful career choices. My goal is to see them gain clarity, build confidence, and find joy in their life and work.
I am committed to guiding entrepreneurs and young professionals to acquire necessary skills, develop their latent leadership qualities, get over anxiety for performance and forge a stronger personal and professional standing. I consider enhancing their efficiency by reorganisation, reorientation and reaffirmation as my specialty.
I envision a world where parents are empowered to let their children get aligned with their passions, values and talents and feel supported and encouraged to make wise career choices. I strive to be a catalyst for this change, providing the guidance and knowledge necessary for parents to build strong children, for teenagers to grow into strong, stable and compassionate adults and young professionals to achieve greater personal and professional fulfilment.
- Maj Gen Balraj Mehta
